How Meditation Music Changed My Life


Welcome to my personal blog! I would like to start things off by welcoming you with a blog post about how a critical event in my life changed me for the better.

Meditation is a very important part of many peoples’ day. Being able to meditate daily helps you clear your mind and find inner peace. If you start off the day meditating, you’ll probably find that your whole day goes better. You will be able to deal with problems you have one by one and then put them aside. You’ll learn that individual issues usually aren’t as big of a deal as you are making them out to be.

Picture of man doing quantum jumping

If you meditate correctly (with the aid of brainwave entrainment music) you will get the same sensation like astral projection and quantum jumping. It’s exhilarating!

After your mediation sessions, you’ll leave happy and relaxed. If you are looking for ways to maximize your meditation sessions, you should consider incorporating music. So, how can music aid your meditation?

How Listening To Music Relaxes You

Music can aid your meditation by providing a calming atmosphere. When most people first start meditating, they find it hard to calm down enough to actually clear their mind. One of the reasons that people find it hard to calm down is because they aren’t in a relaxing environment. If you have screaming children or barking dogs in the room next door, you won’t be able to calm your mind down. The whole time, you’ll be wondering what is going on next door. You need to make sure that before you start meditating you have taken care of all potential problems. 🙂 Check out this video on how Oprah meditates and achieve inner peace during an interview with Dr Oz. Alternatively, read this to fully appreciate the power of brainwave entrainment and meditation music.

If you have tried taking care of any potential disturbance, it is time to see if music can help provide a more inviting atmosphere. There are many CDs available that are made specifically for meditation purposes. The purpose of these CDs is to calm your mind down. Before you can get to the main concept of meditation, you need to make sure that you aren’t thinking about one hundred different things at once. A meditation CD can help you temporarily forget about what you are going through so that you can work through your problems one by one in a rational manner.

During meditation, music can help you focus better. Many people find that with there is calming, constant music in the background they can meditate much more effectively. One of the reasons that people can meditate better with music on in the background is because the music synchronizes with your brainwaves. When the music synchronizes with your brainwaves, you become much more in tune with your mind. This article in TIME magazine actually describes how meditation can improve concentration. It’s pretty amazing.

Do This And You’ll Thank Me Later

Since you now know how music can aid your meditation, you should go out and purchase a meditation CD. Most music stores will allow you to return a CD within a certain time period if you don’t like it. If you think that music can help you meditation more effectively or just help calm you down, you should give it a try.:)

In the end, it could be the difference between finally clearing your mind or giving up on mediation all together. There have been many scientific studies behind music and meditation, which shows that there is a purpose to the technique. If you do decide that you would like to see if music can help aid your meditation, make sure that you give it a fair trial period.

Live well, eat right, and meditate!


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Become The Alpha Male In Your Relationship

Hey guys, how’s it hanging?

So, a reader recently emailed in and asked me to clarify what it means to be the “alpha male” in a relationship, he was starting to feel like his girlfriend was taking over and wanted to gain some power back. So I’m all for this, I mean, I like to cook, and it means that I am an Alpha Male. Ya dig?

A lot of guys have been in a relationship where they aren’t the dominant partner. For many guys, having their girlfriend be in control is very annoying. Ultimately, a dominant female can cause a couple to breakup.

If you have just gotten out of a relationship dominated by your girlfriend, you probably want to make sure it does not happen again. In order to prevent this kind of relationship from happening again, adhere to the advice given in the following paragraphs.

So what’s the art of relationship domination I hear you ask? Well, if you want to dominate a woman, you need to start dominating her from the beginning. As you’ve heard many times before, you only get one chance to make a first impression. Women are very perceptive and if they think that they can control you, they will. You need to come off as very confidence and strong willed when you first meet a girl. This way, the girl will know that you are the one in charge.

(Some may not agree with this analysis at all. For example, check out this piece by MSN – click here).

One of the reasons that a lot of men lose control in relationships is because they always let the girl make the decision. For example, many men will ask the girl where she would like to go for dinner. They do this because they think they are being considerate. While it is considerate to ask her where she wants to go for dinner, there are ways of being considerate and still showing that you are in charge. A good way to do this is to suggest a restaurant to go and then ask her if she would like to go there. This way, you are demonstrating that you are in control but value her input. If you like meditation music for example, share your favorite CD with her.

Over time, it will be easier to exert your dominance because she will be used to it. But at first, you have to be extremely careful of your actions. If the woman notices that she can control you, she will run away with her power. Over the years, she will exert her control in more areas of your life. This can grow out of control and lead to a lot of resentment. That’s why it is so important to establish a solid foundation.

If the woman knows that you are the dominant partner in the relationship, she won’t step out of line and tell you what to do. Even though it may be hard for you to exert your dominance in the beginning, it will pay off in the end.

In conclusion…

Since you now know how to dominate women, you will be much happier in your relationships. As long as you establish your dominance from the beginning, you shouldn’t have any problems being viewed as the primary decision maker in the relationship.

Over time you will discover that it is very easy to dominate women and that they only have to slightly change the way they behave around their girlfriend. Your girlfriend will like it when you are confident and you’ll like it because you will be considered the dominant partner in the relationship.

If you need more tips, techniques and tricks on how to improve your relationships with women, then check out this website:-

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It’s a Kind Of Magic. Dating Magic

Hi all!

A blog reader emailed to ask about clarification on the issue of “alpha male” in relationships in my previous blog post (if you have missed it, click here).

I have just started dating again, and boy it’s quite a steep learning curve for me. It’s no joke at all. Well, most guys tend to struggle when it comes to the affairs of the heart, and I am not an exception for sure! There’s also lots of information on dating and seduction online which is awesome. I did a quick Google and already found lots of websites which deal with relationships – notably the Fractionation website (, Seduction Chronicle and also Fast Seduction. All super awesome stuff! I have learned lots about dating, love and relationships from these websites. I wanted to share everything I’ve learned with my readers so sign up my book.

From my experience (and I’ve had a lot of it), the simplest dating and seduction tactics work the best. I got really confused when somebody emailed to ask me if I knew the “loopholes in female psychology” – and admittedly I got really baffled by the term itself. The fact that there are men who would “hack” into a female’s mind in order to make her feel attracted is simply mind blowing to me (pardon the pun).

I am also a fan of Dr Oz, and reading his articles on relationships makes me happy. Combining these tips with what I have learned from the Internet regarding dating and seducing women is most beneficial to me when it comes to taking my dating skills to the next level. Knowing how to seduce a woman is definitely an asset!

My close friend Ray has “educated” me in the need for pickup lines – I have in fact memorized a bunch of them so that I can use them when I meet a girl that I am interested in. My “day game” skills are getting better by the day for sure. My success rate when it comes to approaching women is about 30% – which is nothing to complain about. As they say, dating is a numbers game. I just need to approach enough women in order to find the special one to be my girlfriend.

The other thing I learned is that having a special skill is also essential when it comes to coming across as “high value” to women. I can play a mean guitar (I am deeply influenced by Buddy Guy, Jimi Hendrix and Kenny Lee), and I have been using that skill to serenade women. It is pretty effective – women like men who know music, and know how to play a music instrument. It’s awesome!

Finally, learning conversational skills is very important when it comes to knowing how to build rapport with women. Many guys have problems talking to women – they simply run out of interesting topics to talk about. In order to impress women, you will need to demonstrate your breadth and depth of knowledge. Read as much as you can. Intelligent guys are attractive – make no mistake about it!

That’s it for today’s blog post. In my next article, I will elaborate more on meditation music which I have previously talked about here. If you have any questions, feel free to email me at!

Make Her Crazy For You!

Dear readers,

Contrary to popular belief, learning how to drive a girl crazy for you really isn’t that difficult. You might not know this, but girls have actually been using special methods to drive guys crazy for centuries now, so who says guys can’t turn the tables around and use them on girls, as well? Well, I definitely believe this is the case. And I know it from personal experience. So I wanted to share my dating success tips with you guys, not just here on my blog but in my book too. Make sure to sign up for a copy at

As I have previously blogged, it’s quite easy to attract an unknown girl. And it’s even easier to make her go ga-ga over you if you know what you’re doing. In fact my awesome dating methods are a great way to start.

For centuries now, girls have challenged guys to prove to them that they are worthy of their time and show them why they are better than the other guys who might be running after them at the same time.

A lot of the time, girls do this by saying things like, “You’re not really my type. I prefer tall and good-looking guys with great careers. You just don’t fit my standards. However, if you run after me and compliment me for long enough, I may let you stick around for a few drinks.”

This is so true, right? In a nutshell, girls get their kicks by trying to provoke guys into proving themselves as worthy suitors for them.

They get guys to try and measure up to their unrealistic and lofty expectations of what the perfect guy should be. Well, now is the time to turn things around for you and use similar methods to drive a girl crazy for you for a change. So, the next time you see an interesting girl in a bar, ask her something like, “You look fun. Are you?” Then pull her closer to you without warning. That, my friend, is Chef Jeff’s secret sauce when it comes to making women go crazy over you. 🙂

Using The Push-Pull Technique

Here’s something off the dating playbook bible that is If she says something negative when you do this or pushes you away, just walk away and ignore her all night. If she tries to get your attention again, say something like, “Look. You had your chance earlier and you blew it, okay? I may give you a second chance if your kissing skills are up to par, though. Are they?” This is sure to drive a girl crazy for you in no time.

Your next move would simply be to lean closer to her so that she can kiss you with gusto or just wait for her to grab you and kiss you herself. Either way, you are sure to get kissed because this method is guaranteed to drive a girl crazy for you.

Now, if you want to move things up a notch, you have to create some sexual tension somehow. One easy way to do this would be by making the girl want to certify her qualities to you.

Every girl out there believes that they are good in bed, for example. Well, if you tell her that she isn’t a good kisser after she kisses you or if you casually comment that she doesn’t seem to know how to kiss a guy properly, she will want to prove you wrong as soon as possible.

You can even try and build up more sexual tension by asking, “You’re dressed like a girl looking for a good time, but how come you don’t come on strong in the sexual department? Why are you so repressed?” This is sure to make her feel like a prude and will make her want to prove you wrong. This is how easy it is to drive a girl crazy for you. And if you want more “firepower” in your seduction then be an alpha male.

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Need a Brain Update? Meditate!

Meditation: The Key to Focus

My dear Readers: I don’t know what’s been happening lately, but for the past couple of days, I’ve been misplacing a LOT of my things. This annoyed my friend too much, to the point of her calling me a “scatterbrain”. According to Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary, the word “scatterbrain” is defined as a “person who is unable to concentrate or think clearly”– case in point– me. For many, there are days when everything is just in its wrong place because the ability to remember and focus is non-existent—sometimes even to the point that looking for your lost car keys may mean having to look inside the refrigerator(I hope this never happens, though.)

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If you belong to the majority of people who are unable to focus and concentrate on a daily basis, you may need to do your brain a favour and give it a quick update. The best way for you to give your good old brain all the attention it deserves is through meditation—a mental discipline that allows your mind to achieve a state of consciousness in order to achieve an indestructible sense of well-being.

Some time ago I wrote about how meditation combined with the power of music can help you achieve a balanced mind and body, today, I’m going to give you a sneak peek on how mindfulness meditation works.

The Power of Mindfulness Meditation

Meditation has been around for centuries. Modern times allowed it to progress over the years, as more and more mediators continuously enjoy its benefits. The many benefits of meditating have been researched by science, thus resulting into a lot of developments. Modern techniques even apply isochronic tones to further explore the powers of meditation. More studies have shown how meditation can affect a person’s ability to concentrate, think clearly, and become more emotionally-stable and be compassionate.

Ancient Buddhist meditation techniques were introduced in the United States in the late 1970s. Dr Britta Hölzel, a leading psychologist at Harvard Medical School and Massachusetts General Hospital, conducted a study that allowed its participants to practise mindfulness meditation. The aim of mindfulness meditation is to incorporate objects and use them as means to improve overall focus. Breathing techniques are used in order to improve and focus on the overall sensations both the body and the mind experience. Lastly, the technique focuses on letting the mind focus on the present—instead of letting the mind drift.

The Benefits

Now that the process of mindfulness meditation has been explained briefly, let’s explore the facts the study presented, backed up by science.

The MRI brain scans which were taken before and after the study showed dramatic increases in the participants’ “gray area”, specifically the hippocampus, which is linked to the brain’s ability to learn, remember, and concentrate. It also showed a decreased gray area in the amygdala—the brain’s receptors for anxiety and stress. While those who practised meditation experienced positive changes in brain activity and overall well-being, the MRI scans of those who did not showed no significant changes in the same areas.

Further studies and research have also shown how meditation can increase compassion. Back in 2008, PloS One published the result of a study that concluded how meditation increases the brain’s temporal parietal junctures levels—an area of the brain that is linked to empathy. Think of it this way—a mediator is most likely to be more affected by the sound of suffering or an image of destruction as compared to a person who does not mediate.

Ice Breakers for Awkward Dates

Okay guys, crap happens. Even in the best-planned of dates can fall into the sinkhole of awkwardness. Of course it’s not an abyss. It’s something that’s escapable, quite easily for the person who knows how to. But let me warn you, gentlemen, it does take some skills to get out of, successfully.

The thing is, there is an unwritten rule that says it is the man’s job to break the ice and the ensuing awkwardness that comes with it. After all, you asked for the date in the first place. I very nearly had the worst date of my life last night. But I remembered these tips at the last minute and managed to salvage it. So, thought I’d share these with you to save you guys from going through the same thing! (BTW, I’ve got all these tips and more to share in my book, sign up here for a copy.

Unless the lady went out of her way to ask you out, how to make it a comfortable conversation between you and the lady during your date rests on your shoulders.

Here are some of the most popular and most effective icebreakers that you can use to escape your date’s awkward moments.

Believe that you can win it with humor. A good joke, no matter how simple, can take you a long way. Found this really interesting article on Telegraph UK about how men can ‘laugh women into bed.’ Stock your brain with jokes from Grampa, jokes from all the summer camps you’ve been to, old High school funny stories, and maybe even the crazy stories from college. Even the corniest ones, when done right and timed right, will break the ice fantastically. You can even text her. Here’s how to text a woman and seduce her. Avoid self-deprecating jokes, jokes against someone (even when she does not know the person in question), and jokes against her. You wouldn’t want to be on the wrong foot. Keep your jokes general and clean – yes, no sex jokes this early, unless you want to be mistaken for a perv.

This next step is easy, do it with compliment. Ahh but of course. A classy gentleman would never fail to compliment his lady! IN fact, each date should always start with a simple, wholesome compliment. Spill one when there’s practically nothing to talk about! But careful when dropping this one. Like the humor ice breaker, it should be timed well, and done in a classy manner. Don’t make it sound random – it just sounds creepy if you do!

Another easy icebreaker, is just to talk about her. A little research will go a long way if you want to save yourselves from awkward quiet moments on a date. Talk about her job, school, or practically anything ‘generic’ that you know about her. When attempting to do this, avoid the following: her weight, her ex, sex in general, and her political and religious beliefs. Keep things generic and safe.

Or use the people you both know as a topic. So she is a friend of the cousin of the girlfriend of your officemate. Why don’t you guys talk about this common connection you have? Anything you have in common is a good thing to talk about, unless there is a rift between her and the other people in the conversation. A simple ‘so, how do you know…’ will save your bum in more ways than one.

Use these ice breakers sensibly to proceed to a meaningful conversation, especially if you think she’s a keeper. They can only help you start something up; anything else that follows will now depend on how you handle the whole situation. Good luck on your date, Champion! And if you want to learn how to mix it up with an outdoor date, read on here.

Caught Red Handed? Read This…

Hey guys, So this blog post is part confessional/part lesson that I’m sharing so you don’t make the same mistake I did.

So, what do you do when you’ve been caught red-handed, doing something awful? Do you try to deny it? Do you dare turn the tables around and justify the mistake in the hopes of escaping it? Or do you humbly admit that you are at fault and apologize, moreover, accept the consequences of your action?

Whichever way you go, you do know that there will be consequences to your action. The bigger the mistake, the bigger and longer lasting the consequences.

Now, what do you do if you’ve caught red-handed cheating on your girlfriend?  Harder question right? Sure it would be so much easier if you can deny it, or if you can actually put the blame on someone else. That makes you a free man.

But what does a good man do? Is there a way for you to still somehow win your girlfriend even after being caught with this almost-unforgivable mistake?

Here is some advice on what to do when you’ve been caught cheating.

First off, don’t try to deny it. If she’s seen you, or has clear and undeniable evidence of what you’ve done, trying to deny it would be a much bigger mistake. It’s simply adding insult to injury; it would only make you seem disrespectful; that, and that you think she’s an idiot to believe your stupid, obvious lie.

Be a man and admit it. Admit all of its gory details. She won’t believe anything you say anymore anyway (except the bad stuff) and since you’ve already been caught red handed, there’s no reason not to tell her everything. Come out clean; people with no skeletons in the closet sleep better. That, and the fact that you’d only make it worse if she hears all the other stuff from other people (some of which are likely to end up fabricated) that will be so much harder to explain. So come clean.

Understand that this isn’t about you, and listen to her rants. You deserve that. In fact, you deserve more than just that. She might actually slap you, or throw stuff at you – all that depending on how good or bad she is at anger management. Don’t say anything when she’s ranting, don’t even defend yourself because you don’t have that privilege at the moment. Let her rant all she wants because she deserves anything that will have her release her anger. In fact, actually let her be angry at you. It would go off worse if she tries to feign or hide her real emotions.

Importantly, apologize properly. Saying that you’re ‘sorry’ is not enough. Remember the rules in apologizing properly: ‘I’m sorry’, ‘I won’t do it again’, and ‘what can I do to make things better?’ are the basics of a proper apology. But of course, none of this would be at all significant if you miss out on being sincere in every level of this apology.

Finally, just wait. Yes, there’s nothing else you can do other than wait for what she has to say about it. The decision is definitely in her hands and no one else’s. You cannot demand anything to her. And if she needs time to decide about your fate, give her exactly that. And while waiting, don’t dare get into another cheating stunt!

Do everything for her if you want her back, here’s an amazing dating advice for men from

If you want more advice on how to do everything if you want her back, email me at and check out this article on how to make her fall crazy in love with you again.

Good luck!

Doctor, doctor!

Hey guys!

One of my regular readers emailed me recently; he is head over heels hung up about a girl who is a medical student, he asked, “Chef Jeff, I need your advice on this. Is it a futile dating endeavour or should I just go for it with her?”

And I got in touch with a dating coach I know rather well for some advice, because honestly, I’d normally suggest if you’ve been planning to pursue a lady who’s in medical school: don’t. Dating a med student may be the most difficult, most demanding, most patience-requiring endeavor you’d ever have to take in your entire life. You cannot possibly date a medical student if you don’t have enormous amounts of patience and tons of good and fun hobbies to keep you entertained wile your future doctor of a lady love is busy with her med-school life. And I tell you honestly, she’s going to be a lot of that – busy.

See, medical students are far more difficult to date than law students. While law students need to finish up to 5 years in law school, medical students are perpetual students. They’d be learning something well into their 30s, and in between that and the now, they’re either in a classroom, working on their thesis, taking some sort of exam, or running around in the hospital doing their rounds as doctor. And they’re not even specialists at that rate yet.

And if you ask me what they do with their free time, I tell you they don’t have any. I’ve known medical students and I know them to be ones who get to miss the most number of holidays. In that case, what’s another date to miss right? That is why it is pretty hard for them to find relationships outside of the medical university and the hospital. They need someone who could understand the demands of their field, someone who does not get discouraged at canceled dates and odd hour dates.

But if you’re one to brave such challenge, here’s some heads up for you from Matthew Hennessey, the dating coach. Here are a few tips from him for dating a medical student:

“Number one, don’t ever be late for dates. While this is cardinal rule in regular dates, it is of utmost importance when dating a med student. The time she’d spend waiting for you, she’d rather spend on sleeping or studying. Just try eye contact seduction!

Importantly, don’t ever be nonsensical. They are among the smartest in the land; they’ve braved the high seas of entrance exams, one after the other. Being nonsensical will take you to the very end of her date potential list.

And never ever be unhygienic. She’s used to sterile environments; don’t disrupt the balance of her world by being the bearer of bad bacteria. Always look clean and smell clean, and don’t be a walking virus outbreak.

Stay on your toes and be ready for odd hour dates. Her shift could end at 3am, or 6am, or 12 midnight. Be ready to take her on dates at any time. And be ready to be disappointed too. They’re sometimes on shift for 36 hours straight that a little wine and dine is the last thing on their mind.

Understand too that you gotta be ready for competition. Relationships and dates are hard to come by in their field because of its demands. That is why the guys at med school tend to date just the girls they go to med school with. So that lady future doctor of yours? She’s likely to have tons of suitors at school and the hospital – trust me, they’re smart and they understand the medical lingo way more than you do.

And always be very, very patient. Dates, really, are hard to come by. So you’d have to wait, or squeeze yourself in her outdoor study time. Or better yet, an outdoor date; for tips on these check out this post [5] or email me at for more advice!

Yes, dating a medical student can be this demanding and more. It’s not for the weak of heart, I tell you. But if she’s worth it and more, then you’re good to go. *Wink wink*”

So that’s Matthew’s advice for dating a med student. Thanks for reading, you may want to read this article on why women dig smart men, and how to up your A game by becoming one if you want to increase your odds at keeping your med student. [2] Thanks!

Travelling Together Helps You Stay Together

To my readers,

I wrote this post is for a good friend of mine, he and his girl were going through some issues and I so offered this advice to them and you. Forget about the images of Ashton Kutcher and Brittany Murphy on the movie Just Married, where their supposed once-in-a-lifetime trip to Europe not only ruined their honeymoon, but also threatened their entire marriage. Forget about the thought of killing each other with constant bickering and arguing on the road. Forget it, I say. Traveling is good for the couple’s soul and a way to heal issues between you.

Wait? Guys how to know (for sure) if a girl likes you. Well, you can always follow my advice for making her go crazy in love with this article or email me at for other ideas.

Here are some great reasons why it would be such an awesome idea and why your girlfriend would love you more for it.Top of the list is that, traveling means getting a break from your usual routine. Too much familiarity not only hampers growth in individuals and couples; it also disallows for variety. You will never know what you find out about your partner until you find yourselves halfway across the world doing something you’ve never done before. It would be awesome to know what your usually non-jealous type of girlfriend could do to a woman who finally touches her jealous bone!

Secondly, traveling means getting an excuse to get a hotel room. Who does not fancy sleeping in a hotel room every once in a while? When you don’t have to fix your bed, or cook your food, or even go down to get a bottle of soda? Who doesn’t like feeling privileged once in a while? And who does not enjoy a little loud (maybe even wild) sex without worrying about the postman or the landlord hearing all the disgraceful things only a kinky hotel room can bring out? Yes, you know what I mean about hotel rooms!

Other reasons traveling can help is because it means getting to enjoy new things with the love of your life. Authentic shisha in Cairo? Getting a henna tattoo in Delhi? Feeding the doves in Amsterdam? Eating French toasts at a French bistro in Paris? There are tons of things to discover and do when you travel, and having your girlfriend to share that experience with makes it even better, more memorable. You’ll have a story to share and talk about for the rest of your lives, whether you stay together for keeps or otherwise.

And traveling is a great way to de-stress your relationship. Sometimes, inward and outward stresses take the best out of even the strongest and most stable of romantic relationships. We all need a breather, and traveling together might just be the thing for you. What would be a better way to rediscover your passionate love for each other, recreate your romance, and start all over again as a couple than to sit in a wonderful sunset, sipping margaritas, and sharing with each other the beauty of the world and the beauty of the relationship that you have? Sometimes, that’s all you’ll ever need to fix your relationships.

See this interesting article from

Not convinced yet? It does not even have to be grand and expensive! You don’t have to fly all the way to Maldives just to enjoy your couple travel. A short road trip together, or a trip to the nearest beach, and maybe even camping on the next long weekend will do the trick. The secret is to get away and get as much undisturbed time alone; trust me it will do wonders to your relationship and your girlfriend would love you more for it. *Wink*

And also, check out this article to make sure she’s a keeper. Good luck!

Welcome To 2014!

Finally, the new year is here! I have got so many things I want to do this year, and I can’t wait to get started. 🙂

I will be sharing more recipes this year as well as other culinary adventures from time to time. Meanwhile, here’s a recap of my Top 5 blog posts of 2013 as voted by readers (as emailed to

Top Five Blog Posts

Much love,