Rim Jobs: What You Need to Know About Anal Rimming

Rim Jobs: What You Need to Know About Anal Rimming

Rim jobs, or anal rimming, is something that a lot of people mistakenly believe is reserved for gay couples. However, a lot of people are opening their eyes and minds to the pleasure they may be missing out on.

Rimming consists of various anal play, mainly focusing on using oral techniques in and around the anus.

It is something that is usually associated with anal sex which is why a lot of people think it is just for gay couples. However, there’s a lot that can be enjoyed by exploring anal rimming. All couples, no matter what your gender or sexual preference, can enjoy rimming.

This is the definitive guide to rim jobs, and we will educate you on everything you need to know about this type of sexual play.

What Is Anal Rimming?

Rimming, which is also known as analingus, is a type of sexual play that involves kissing, licking, or even penetrating the anus. There are a lot of different ways that you can explore this kind of sexual act and you can also use sex toys.

This kind of sexual play is often associated with anal sex, but it can be performed whenever you want. A lot of couples will use some form of anal rimming as foreplay for both vaginal or anal penetration.

As with all kinds of sexual activity or experimentation, anal rimming works best and feels great when the two people involved are excited and have a bond of trust with each other.

When you are trying something new in the bedroom, you need to make sure that both you and your lover feel comfortable and excited. Try to have an open communication surrounding sex and the things you want to try, to make things feel more comfortable for both parties.

How To Prepare For Anal Rimming

When you are trying something new in the bedroom, you are going to have to do a lot more preparation than you may be used to.

This is especially the case when you are trying to incorporate anal play.

If you want to try anal rimming or analingus for the first time, you need to make sure to get your body prepared for it.

This kind of sexual play should start the same way as everything else you may try in the bedroom – with a good cleanse.

As you can imagine, there is a lot of bacteria in the anus, which can cause an unpleasant experience for both you and your lover. Before trying anal rimming or any other anal play, make sure to take a bath or shower beforehand.

Some people may choose to use an anal douche to get a deep clean, but this isn’t always necessary.

Before cleansing, make sure you take some time to empty your bowels. This is important if you are going to be incorporating anal penetration into your sexual play and this is vital if it is your first time doing so. In most cases, this just helps you to have peace of mind that nothing will escape during anal sex.

It is also important that you remember that hair can grow around the anus, just like it does in various other areas across the body. This applies to both men and women and it is nothing to be ashamed about.

Some people like to trim or remove the hair around their anus before receiving a rim job. This is a totally personal preference, much like pubic hair, but it can help make it a more pleasurable experience for the one who is giving the rim job.

Removing hair from the anus makes it easier for your lover to offer a rim job and experiment with different movements without suffering from the awkward 'hair in the back of the throat' or worse' hair caught in the teeth' scenario.

You should also be aware that STIs can be caught and transferred during any kind of anal play so you will need to use protection. Before experimenting with any type of anal play, make sure you have some form of protection prepared for the two of you.

There are various options when it comes to contraception for anal play, but your best option may be a dental dam. This is kind of like a condom and it has been specially made for this kind of sexual play.

When using a dental dam, your lover will still feel all of the sensations of the rim job, but both of you will be protected from STIs and other infections.

Dental dams are also available in a great range of flavors, much like condoms, so they can improve the experience for the person giving the rimming as well. They also do not hinder how deep you can go into the anus, but they do offer that important barrier between yourself and STIs.

Lube is another very important part of anal play, especially when penetration is involved, and it can seriously help you out when exploring anal rimming. Using flavored lubes can improve the experience of anal rimming for both the giver and the receiver.

Using lube will make it easier for you to penetrate your lover or explore anal rimming. With the various different flavors that are available, the giver can have a great experience licking and sucking the anus area while tasting the lube.

Overall, rimming is a very popular experience among both men and women – no matter what their sexual preference is.

It can be quite a simple form of sexual play, but it is very pleasurable and is a great way to spice up your sex life.

What’s So Great About Anal Rimming?

If you have never experienced anal rimming or indeed any other form of anal play before, then you may be wondering what all of the fuss is about.

A lot of people, of all genders and sexual preferences, can enjoy anal rimming. The main reason is the fact that it can feel great! But there is a lot about anal rimming that can turn couples on and get them excited to be together.

One of the main attractions to rimming is the fact that it is considered to be a 'taboo.' This is a form of sexual play that a lot of people may have reservations about and may consider it to be naughty. This is why a lot of couples enjoy anal rimming and want to try it.

It is quite a normal reaction to be drawn to something that is considered to be naughty, different, or maybe even a little bit risqué. This is perhaps the most popular reason for couples wanting to explore rim jobs or even anal play in general.

Sometimes, people want to explore anal play because they are attracted to their partner’s butt.

We all have our own unique turn-ons and for a lot of people, this may be their lover’s butt. This is why anal rimming is such a good thing for many different couples.

It is the perfect opportunity to get up close and personal with your favorite part of your lover's body and explore their butt even more.

Anal rimming is a very intimate experience that can be very stimulating for both the giver and the receiver. When you are that physically close to another person’s anus, you cannot help feeling intimate and close to them emotionally.

A lot of couples chose to explore anal rimming as a way to get them prepared for anal sex.

When you are going to be trying anal sex for the first time, there is a lot of preparation that you need to undergo both emotionally and physically.

The anus is a lot tighter than the vagina and it does not get wider or wetter when your lover becomes aroused. This is why a lot of people can find anal sex to be uncomfortable at first, because of how tight the anus is.

However, with regular stimulation and practice, anal sex can become easier for both of you.

With regular penetration, the anus will become slightly looser and wider, making it easier for a penis, fingers, or a sex toy to be inserted. Anal rimming can provide you with the necessary lubrication for any form of anal penetration.

If you are going to be exploring anal sex, then you will seriously benefit from anal rimming beforehand. This will make your anus wet and ready for a penis or sex toy to be inserted.

A lot of couples find anal rimming to be a good starting point for anal sex. If you have never tried any form of anal play before, then rimming can be a gentle yet arousing introduction into this field. It can be more comfortable than anal penetration and it is a good stepping stone for anal sex.

There are a lot of things about anal rimming that can turn both you and your partner on. One surprising thing we have heard is the fact that a lot of people can be turned on by the scent of a freshly cleaned anus.

Much like the vagina, people can have different scents to their anus and this can be a turn-on for your lover.

Another thing that people claim turns them on about anal rimming is the sense of vulnerability it offers. Those who are receiving a rim job are in quite a vulnerable position and this can be a turn-on for both parties involved.

As rimming does put you in quite a vulnerable position, you need to have open communication with your partner and make sure you can trust them.

Keep the communication going through the sex act so you can let your partner know how you are feeling and what you like, as well as being able to tell them when to stop if it gets too much for you. This is especially important when trying something new for the first time, as you don’t know how either of you will react.

As you can see, there are a lot of different things about anal rimming that can be enjoyed by both the receiver and the giver.

We all have our own unique turn-ons and not everyone is going to be into the same thing. This is the case for anal rimming – not everyone is going to be into it. There is no harm in trying something new. If you don’t like it, you never have to try it again.

This is why it is so important for you to be open and honest with your partner.

Talk to them about the things you want to try and where you draw the line. Keep this conversation going when trying anal rimming or any other new position, so you can let them know when you want to stop or what you want them to keep doing.

At the end of the day, as long as the act is consensual between the two of you, there is no harm in trying something new during sex.  

How To Perform Anal Rimming

Now that you understand what anal rimming is and how it can feel, you may be interested in trying it yourself.

Luckily, there are no hard-and-fast rules when it comes to anal rimming – which is also the case for any other sexual play you want to explore. The main focus is how it feels for you and your lover, so you are free to explore a range of different positions and moves within this.

Anal rimming is actually quite simple as it only requires the stimulation of the anus. As long as the anus is being stimulated in some way, whether that is through fingers, your tongue or even with a sex toy, then you are performing anal rimming.

The reason why rim jobs and other anal play can feel so great is the fact that the anus has a lot of nerve endings. This is why it can be so pleasurable to have this area stimulated in whichever way you feel like trying.

Anal rimming allows you to explore this area and try out a range of movements, stimulants, and positions to see what turns your lover on.

It can still feel quite overwhelming to try something for the first time, as you want to make sure you are doing it right. Here are some tips to get you started with giving rim jobs:

  • The best position is doggie

Most people find that anal rimming is easier to give and receive when you are in the doggie position. This allows you to have access to your lover’s anus and is more comfortable for them to get into as well.

  • Remove anus hair beforehand

Most people find it easier to remove or trim their anus hair before receiving a rim job. It can be quite uncomfortable for the person who is giving the rim job to try and move around a lot of hair.

If possible, you could just part and move the hair out of your way to get better access.

  • Start slow

A great way to get things started is by going slow. Take your time and start kissing or licking the slope of the butt crack before moving onto the anus. Give your partner some time to get used to these new sensations and see what they like before going any further.

  • Think of ice cream

It can be quite hard to think about the best way to stimulate your lover’s anus with your tongue. However, the best way to start is with a flat tongue.

Move your tongue as though you are licking ice cream. This process can be made far more enjoyable for you if you use flavored lube.

  • Tease your lover with your tongue

Before going into the anus and licking around the butt hole, tease your lover by licking and kissing down the crack first.

This will get them used to the sensations and get them excited about what is going to come. It is also an excellent opportunity for you to get used to this area and try out some new movements.

  • Get yourself moist first

Anal rimming is an excellent preparation for anal sex because it can lubricate the area well. Using your own moisture is also a good way to improve the way the rim job feels for your lover.

Wait until your lips are moist enough before trying to kiss the anus, as this will improve the sensations.

  • Use some swirling movements

A good way to get up close and personal with the actual rim of the anus is to swirl your tongue around it. This will moisten the area ready for anal sex and can offer a lot of pleasure to your partner.

Once you have performed anal rimming a few times, you will find your own rhythm and work out what is best for your lover. You can have a lot more fun with anal rimming when you find your own stride as you can start to use some of your own unique movements.

It is possible for some people to reach orgasm through anal rimming and other anal play. This is not the case for everyone, but you can still experience great pleasure through this sex act.

As always, make sure you are communicating with your partner throughout the sex act. This is a good way to learn more about what turns them on, what they like and what they don’t like.

If you do not feel comfortable talking about sex or anal rimming with your lover, then you are not going to feel comfortable trying them out. Make sure you have an open and trusting relationship before trying new positions.

What Positions Work For Anal Rimming?

As we have already mentioned, the doggie-style position may be one of the best for anal rimming. This is going to give you good access to your partner’s anus, as well as being quite comfortable for them to keep up.

This position requires your partner to get down on all fours, placing their buttocks slightly higher than the rest of the body. This will give you access to their buttocks and allow you to incorporate anal play easily.

However, as with all things sex-related, this will not work for everyone. Luckily, there are lots of other positions you can try when experimenting with rim jobs or anal play.

It is also possible to receive a rib job when standing up.

If you are trying this position, then it is recommended that you stay near a wall which you can use for support. Spread your arms out and place your hands flat onto the wall, door, or another flat surface for support and control.

When in this position, spread your legs wide so your partner can have good access to your anus. You may benefit from crouching slighting or lowering your body, especially if your lover is kneeling on the floor underneath you.

You can also get your lover to crouch or bend over a chair when giving them a rim job. This could be more comfortable for both of you, as you don’t quite know how long you will be there when trying anal rimming for the first time.

Even if you choose something fairly basic, like standing up while receiving a rim job, there are some things you can do to make it more pleasurable or kinky depending on your desires.

If you are standing while receiving a rim job, try lifting one leg onto a table or chair, so some of your lower body is raised up. Your lover can then give you a rim job from this position and may be able to go deeper when half of you has risen.

Once you get used to anal rimming and have experimented with various different positions, you may find new movements to make it more pleasurable.

Don’t be afraid to get creative and try new positions when exploring anal play. You never know what you will find and you could end up orgasming this way.

Some people have also reported success with the so-called 'yoga' position. This can be quite a complicated position, so it certainly won't work for everyone. It does give your lover brilliant access to your anus.

This position requires you to shoulder-stand, using your neck and shoulder to support the weight of your body. This will be more comfortable to perform in bed, with lots of cushions for support.

In this position, your legs and torso will be in the air. You should try to have your legs open, so your lover has good access to your anus.

Your partner can choose to kneel or sit, depending on what is more comfortable for them. As long as they have a good view of your buttocks, it should work no matter what.

Anal rimming could also be performed in the 69 positions, but instead of going for the genital area, turn your lover over so you have access to their buttocks. You could also simply move your head towards the anus without turning them over.

This is a good position for a lot of different couples as it allows you to go from oral sex to anal rimming quickly. This means you can experiment with a range of different sex acts within a shorter period of time.

If none of these are working for you, then you could try the simple bending over the position. This requires the receiver of the rim job to bend their body at the waist, leaning forward on a table or chair. This allows the giver to get in a variety of different positions while they experiment with anal play.

This is very simple to do and can be comfortable for both parties, making it a good option for so many different people. It is also a versatile position that you can try in various locations around the home.

Advanced Rim Job Tips

Once you have gotten used to giving rim jobs and have experimented with a range of different positions, you may be wanting to try something new. As with most sexual positions, adding a little bit of kink can seriously improve the experience and make it more pleasurable for both of you.

Here are some advanced tips to make anal rimming even more enjoyable for both you and your lover:

  • Get your teeth involved – make sure you do not chomp down hard unless that’s what you’re into, but a little bit of nibbling can go a long way
  • Use sex toys like butt plugs, dildos or even a strap on to improve your rim job experience and offer more sensations
  • Try to fondle the genitals when you are giving your lover a rim job to help them reach orgasm
  • Experiment with various different positions before you've even starting rimming, using your mouth as often as possible. Sit on their faces, try the upside-down position or stand up to see what works best for you.

Fiona Petree

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